Peter van der Veer | Personal development
Onze blinde vlek
The book is only available in Dutch.
Why do we keep repeating patterns in our behaviour and relationships that once made us feel safe, but hold us back later in life?
In Onze blinde vlek (Our blind spot), Peter van der Veer shows how early experiences, loyalty to the family, fear and coping strategies continue to affect adult life: relationships, work, self-image and life choices. The common thread runs from surviving unconsciously, to recognising your own patterns, and finally to conscious choices based on your own values, needs and goals.
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Onze blinde vlek will be published soon, in Dutch only. Leave your details and you will be the first to hear when the book is available and what it costs. There is no obligation.
- A message as soon as the book is published
- Sent by post or collected in Lattrop
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How the book is built
Thanks to the fixed structure of the case stories and the clear layout, the book is pleasant to read and useful to come back to later.
- 1Eleven case stories
Eleven anonymised stories from practice, each with the same structure: background, recurring patterns, the blind spot, the intervention and a theoretical explanation.
- 2Causes and borderline situations
The idea of the blind spot explored further: shame, repression, generational patterns and the marginal position, the moment when a survival strategy that used to work no longer does.
- 3The toolbox
A wide collection of methods Peter uses in his practice to explore and change patterns, with questions and practical exercises.
The toolbox
In the last part, Peter describes the methods he uses to explore and change patterns:
Metaphors, questions and exercises make the theory practical. That makes the book above all an accessible guide to self-reflection, not a textbook.
Who is it for?
For anyone who keeps running into the same things and wants to understand why. For those curious about the influence of family and the past, and for professionals who work with people.
What will you take away?
Recognition, words for what you feel and insight into your own blind spots. The stories make complex psychological ideas understandable and show that patterns can be broken.
Personal
Peter writes in a personal and reflective style. He also shows his own development and his own blind spots. More about Peter
From reading to experiencing
Do you recognise yourself in the book? In a coaching session, in English or Dutch, or during a stay at Provisium, you can look further at your own patterns. The book is included in the Rest and insight package.